things shouldn't be this hard...

**warning** when i get upset, my thoughts usually don't come out coherent. So i apologize in advance for the sometimes random-ness of this post.

we decided to baptize our baby this weekend, pretty much last minute. and now all hell is breaking loose. my dad is upset, my dad's family isn't coming at all - well, haven't heard from his mom, but i seriously don't expect her to come - all because the baptism is at 1:30 (lasting a max of 1 hour for 4 kiddos to be baptized) and then my cousin is up for an award that means nothing really - it is a political award for best italian firefighter (*rolls eyes*) and that ceremony begins at 4 pm at mt. vernon country club.

so, if said family would come to baptism, they would have 1.5 hours to get to the club in the foothills - probably could get there from 80th and wads in about 45 minutes. I think there is AMPLE time for all to be accomplished that day.
well, dad's side of the family is small (two great aunts, their only spoiled sons in their 50's and 60's) and my grandma. oh, and cousins' son, and other cousins 3 kids and family, that's it (i say that b/c my mom's side is HUGE)

well, none of them are coming to the baptism - which is fine by me b/c i am tired of inviting people just because i have to. I really don't have a relationship with any of them. To me a relationship is a two way street - you call me and i call you - i don't even mind being the one that stops by on occasion b/c they are old (Great aunts in 80's) but none of this happens. I do call 1-2 times per month to check in and make sure they are still kickin', but i never get calls from them.

so, dad cancels his two seats at the ceremony to attend baptism. i really didn't want him to do this - there isn't goign to be many people at the baptism reception and probably won't even last 1 hour anyway. i am really upset about this b/c i went to their house for dinner and he totally yelled at me. said that there is no way that you can send out/call invitations to people 5 days before an event. i told him yes there is, and i had no expectations of people being able to come anyway. and made it clear to him that's why we wanted to talk to you guys about it this weekend in the mtns so that you could let us know if you could be there or not. and his response? 'isn't it a bit late for an invite?' not - i would really like to go to this ceremony. or can't you do it another weekend? this weekend is booking up fast. nada.
so we decided to do it this weekend. and now he is pissed at me. i am really upset as dad and i RARELY and i do mean rarely, fight. we usually see eye to eye.

well, apparently his mom called him and started yelling at him today b/c of me. and then she got snotty and said - well my sisters aren't invited - and dad called her bluff said i was trying to get a hold of them all day long and that their phone lines were busy. (side note here - i don't like my dad's mom too much she is not a nice person) anyway - I am seriously so upset I want to puke. I never get in a yelling match with my dad, but tonight I just couldn't let him sit there nad tell me that i was in the wrong for making a decision that was financially and the timing was better for us. Financially, we are sharing the party with my cousin, so we won't spend the amount of money that we would have if it were just our party and right now, that means a lot. NOt to mention, we are having the reception at a clubhouse and that means no one has to clean a house for 30 guests. we are ordering food, no one has to cook - it is all around a better deal for all.

i just don't get it. the birth of vin was overshadowed by an adult who acted like she was 2 and now his baptism is turing into something that won't even be good for me to remember because dad will be pouting and in a shitty mood and his family hates us (which really isn't new news) and that will just ruin it for me. actually, sunday is already ruined for me and it is only wednesday. i am so sad right now. i just want one event for my baby where it can be celebrated rather than just worrying about everyone else. I guess that can only happen with just the immediate family from here on out.

may my laptop rest in peace.

you know, i found out how to get the laptop that you really wanted - just leave it where your toddler can get to it and step on it breaking the screen.

ugh. i seriously thought that hubby would be really angry, but he just lauged and told me that he didn't really like the laptop in the first place. lol. but i still feel bad.

on a lighter note, the sibling torture has started. poking, prodding, tickling, and then the latest - putting her jammies over his hand so he can't see/move it. nice. i know that it only gets worse, but my goodness, he is only 11 weeks old! ugh.

many things going on.

we are super busy and have no time for anything - yet I can't tell you what we do.

maybe it's because my lil man is going through a growing spurt and is eating close to 8 oz per feeding!! or because i turn around and today my princess feels like peeing her pants and the floor all day long, so i clean and do laundry all day. or because my lil man's diapers SUCK and he keeps peeing on me and him.

who knows, between my day of feeding everyone and keeping them clean and dry, I seriously have not much time for anything else. And yet, I am running a business, president of my HOA, and begging my hubby to not work such long hours b/c we miss him.

*sigh* although, if things were too slow, it would suck lol - 6 in one, 1/2 in the other...

day 1 without diapers

I am so freakin excited! I thought this was going to be pure hell, and it was a nice surprise. We only had one accident today, and it was a peeing accident, and she caught herself and ran to the bathroom !! Then, tonight after dinner, I was changing the baby and going to feed him. I suddenly noticed we were by ourselves . I yelled for her and asked her where she was and if she needed help - "no mommy"Then I hear "hey mommmmmy.... come see!" and i go in the bathroom and she pooped!! Wow. she went on her own to the bathroom. And didn't go in the stupid princess potty, she climbed up the stool and went in the real potty. I cannot tell you how happy this poop-phobe is right now.No crappy pants, no crappy diapers and no plastic thingy to clean out - just one. simple. flush! .it was truly a good day!!

what an awesome weekend...

we started it off with a mellow friday night as a family - then on saturday morning, we cleaned up and started getting things organized when we went to a friend's birthday party - it was GREAT. Hubby had only met one husband there, and the rest of the moms/kids were from this mom's website that i am on, and my hubby and the other hubby that showed up got along great - so great, that hubby even decided that he wants to hang out with them more!! I am so excited. We have never had friends as a couple, so this tickles me pink. I can't tell you how excited I am :) The bday party was so relaxing, all the kids got along, there were no meltdowns, relatively few squabbles, it was amazingly relaxing for a saturday afternoon.

Hubby put together a chest of drawers today that I went to purchase, and thought I was going to spend $90 on it, and when she rang it up, it rang to $60 - imagine my shock of excitement as I saved $30. Anyway, that is put together now, we just got back from another birthday party from a friend of mine from college, and the fish store. We had to get E a few fish b/c she figured out that the potty isn't only for pee this week!!!!!

All in all it was a wonderful week/weekend. I wish all my weeks and ends can be this way!! Off to pick up the mess that E made with some packaging junk for the chest of drawers!

happy muder's day

'mom, happy muder's day. you like flowlers?'

'oh, thank you - i love the flowers - did you pick them out?'

'yes mommy, i pick flowlers out - you like?'

omg, such sweetness.. :)

i am nuts.

or going nuts.

my devil child has my number - she has pushed every, last, button on my being and my hubby just doesn't get it. i told him when he gets back he has to take a week off and i am leaving them with him to go somewhere cool while he deals with them. he laughed hysterically and told me that the kids will be in perfect shape for him - LMAO he has no idea...

also, i am thinking of starting another message board - so stay tuned... :)

Thoughts on a tough topic.

I wrote a huge post, and it's gone - good lord.

well, now that i have a moment to myself - at 12:30 am, I can finally talk about something that has been on my mind intelligently - immigration reform in the US. Some may think my thoughts on this suck, but I can only say that this is how I feel and if you don't like it, close the blog.

I am upset at this entire situation. I think that 1/3 of me thinks it is a good idea to look at our immigration laws, but 2/3 of me is saying this entire thing is bad.

I know this country was founded on immigrants. My family just three generations before me were immigrants. I would not be here if they didn't come. But I have to say, they came from different countries and learned the language. They got jobs - sometimes multiple jobs - and paid taxes. Not one of my family members who immigrated from over seas once took government assistance and/or expected something for nothing.

I think what makes me sad is that I am middle class. I have lived here my entire life and pay taxes - a lot of them if you ask me. I pay insurance, both medical and car. My parents were hit by an illegal mexican whom was drunk, ran a red light and driving his sister's car. Because there were no witnesses, the sisters insurance didn't pay for my parents car to be fixed. I thank god that my parents are still alive b/c this guy was going mock 10 apparnetly. Dad, being the former police officer, went right after him while sister was on phone with 911 giving descriptions and license plates and getting the police to find them. As a result of an illegal doing this, my parents insurance went up. Why? Because the illegal person didn't have insurance, was driving his sisters car, breaking all laws and rules and now my parents have to pay for his mistakes.

The word expectation comes to mind. I am not sure that I agree with this. When I go to a foreign country, I do not expect them to conform their rules/laws for me. I do not expect them to start speaking my language or change their documents into something that I can understand, or pay for my healthcare, or pay for my insurance. If i were to make the conscious decision to move to another country where I didn't know the language - ie: mexico or even say, japan, I wouldn't expect everyone to speak to me in english. I would purchase a translation dictionary, and take my happy ass somewhere to find language classes and learn the language. I just don't get the level of expectations for the american citizen to go out of their way for someone who is coming here ILLEGALLY. Meaning, no documentation, no proper paperwork, no paying taxes, nothing. I don't get it. If they can do it, then why can't I? I want to not pay taxes. I want to keep more of my money and get paid under the table. I want to have my healthcare paid for. I think that reasonable expectations are if they get arrested that they be given a fair trial - or that they are notified of their rights properly - not that we shell out tons of dollars to support them and their family.

I don't understand why I am expected to learn spanish. That may piss people off, but when all government documents were originally written in English, and 99% of business is conducted in English, why do I have to learn spanish? Not saying that I don't think I should, but why should I be forced to? Do you think that if I went to France, that the French would bend over backwards to make sure that I understood everything?

America isn't the bad guy here. Every country would do the same regarding illegal immigrants expecting privilages that most natives don't or can't participate in because they live here and pay taxes to the government.

Now, the bleeding heart catholic in me feels bad for these people. I know that the conditions in some places where they are coming from are far worse than anything I have ever seen or imagined. I am glad that they have the ability to come here and seek refuge. But why can't they do it legally? Why can't they take the time to at least learn how to say hello and a few other words in English? Or to try to understand our laws? It saddens me to think that I am so angered by this topic, but at the same time, if I were to go to Mexico and take advantage of their government and their money, how long do you think I would be alive there?

potty training days .... whatever :)

we are going strong. E has won herself a brand new fish tank by peeing in the potty so many times. However, today isn't good as I have slacked and tried to push her to see if she would realize when she needed to go and that was a definite no as she happily peed on the carpet. Well, she didn't happily pee, she was very upset and I felt bad, but really wanted to see if she would know when she had to go. So, back to the timer :)

my infant seems to think that i am a human bed as he won't sleep on his own yet. i have to keep reminding myself that he was 3 weeks early so that means that he is essentially a bit younger than he seems and still needs me, however i need him to sleep on his own. so we are compromising. i get him to sleep, a deep sleep, and then i put him in our room in a pack and play - and he seems to be very okay with that.

potty training day 2 and 3

Well, we are averaging 1-2 accidents per day. She is still owned by me - ie: if I don't mention potty, she will just go on my carpet and then realize what she is doing and then get upset b/c she went somewhere other than her potty. LOL -it is a vicious cycle. BUT......I am very proud to announce that missy has won an aquarium!! Yes, she has filled 16 squares with star stickers in them in the past 3 days. I am so proud of her. So, now another chart goes on the fridge and the prize this time is water, rocks and trees or whatever in the aquarium. Then, the last 16 squares is a fish... :) I am so proud of her, she is so excited to get her fish. Hubby wants to get her another fish when she figures out how to poo in the potty, which makes me giggle, but secretly i hope that she figures it out soon.. :)

All in all, once I (as a parent) quit being lazy and decided to potty train her, things have gone way better than I have ever anticipated. I am very excited.

Once again, I have stuck my foot in my mouth on another board, one that I actually really really like, and I feel bad. It is about a heated discussion over the national anthem being translated into spanish (which I do not agree with) and...i just got a bit outraged w/all the legalization stuff going on and well, i have grounded myself from all hot topic discussions. I pissed a lot of people off, and because i don't agree with it, people pissed me off by throwing jaggers back saying that I am just pissed b/c now i will have to learn spanish - so i had to kindly let them know that i know enough to get by. oh well. i am so angry about this entire topic that i just need to step away from the computer...