A poll of sorts - family support.

So, if you live by your family, do they lend you support in the way of watching your kids or helping you around the house?

I am just curious. I have two cousins, they both have families and their mom watches their kids quite often, probably more than i would be comfortable letting my parents watch ours. BUT when they went to sell their houses, the ENTIRE family pitched in and went room by room with them and got it into selling shape.

We are trying to get our house on the market. We have tons of clutter, that I am slowly weeding out of our life and it is making us both less stressed. HOWEVER, this is in between my youngest having on ear infection that won't go away, therefore needing to be held all of the time. And then there is the toddler that just doesn't grasp the concept of picking up once done. She is learning slowly, but not quick enough for me.

I just can't seem to stay on top of things, and we aren't getting ANY support - for example today. I asked my mom weeks ago if she could watch the kids so that I could go get my xray. Then, the other day I asked her if i could go work out for 30 minutes (as that is all I am doing right now to help build my lungs back up) and she said no problem. BUT then today she must have forgotten it b/c now she wants to go to lunch (something I am not fond of as I do not like eating in front of her since she watches what I eat) and then to my house (messy house) to watch the kids for my xray. Then off to run her errands. She works 1/2 days BTW. and apparently her errands can't wait so that I can go work out for 30 minutes as eating isn't a priority in my life, working out is.

I just don't get it. I am frustrated. I want to check out of my family for awhile as this is totally getting on my nerves. And yes, I am resentful. Very resentful that they won't help in any way (be it taking the kids or whatever) they have this preconceived notion on how things should be, and apparently helping your kids out isn't one of them.

ooh, i can remember - my cousin whom does as little as possible mostly, went to move. she watched the kids and got food while everyone else moved. Now is that how I would do it? no. but that is how she chose and really, do we need to judge?

Maybe that's it - this entire post is about judging not how we do things, but how other's judge our actions. Now that I know that, I can definitely tell you that my family judges EVERYTHING - how you look , dress, what you eat, what you buy, your time frames for doing things, etc.

But like I told hubby, they can lean on me all they want for things that they think I am doing wrong, but unless they are willing to help contribute to get the desired end result that they think we should have, I think they should pay more attention to their marriage than to us.